This has been on my mind for a while now. Back when I was pregnant with Shaylin I posted a blog here about how I struggled with how to answer people that asked if she was my first. Usually I would say that she was my first healthy pregnancy but she was my 7th pregnancy.
This time around has actually been confusing to me. I tend to refer to Jillian as "Baby #2". But then I feel guilty calling her that because really Baby #2 came & went in October 2007. One time while discussing pregnancies with my sisters-in-law, I actually referred to my pregnancy with Shaylin as my "first pregnancy" & immediately I felt horrible. I felt like I was ignoring the 6 babies before her.
At the same time I don't want to refer to Jillian as my 8th baby because it can seem confusing to people that don't know us. Or it can just seem like a downer to remind people of our losses. But it's hard because I can't ignore them.
So what's the solution? I have no idea. I will at least continue to live my life knowing that I have 8, not just 2, babies.