When we brought Jillian home we knew there was going to be an adjustment period, specifically for Shaylin. She's 2 so that already makes things interesting (side note: We don't use the term "terrible two's"). But for 26 months of her life she was an only child. Now she was going to have to share our attention, especially mine. And we've definitely had some rough days.
Her behavior changed a lot after Jillian was born. That was hard to watch. Shaylin would really try to push the limits. Or not getting my attention would turn into near meltdowns. I say near because we've always tried to stop them before they start.
One reason why I was at peace about holding off on potty training was because I could tell that she was still adjusting. Getting a baby sister is a major life change so there was no need to add another one.
Lately I've seen a change in her though. There's been less defiance, less attempted meltdowns, more immediate obedience, & more independent play. Today we had to go to Walmart & it was the least stressful shopping trip with both girls that I've had yet. She wasn't running up the aisles. She was staying by my side or at least by the cart. When looking through the kids' clothing section she wasn't hiding in the racks. She was close by & looking at clothes with me.
Shaylin's also been extra helpful around the house. We've always tried to encourage her to help, especially when she offers. Sometimes it slows down what I'm doing or I have to re-do it. But we never want to discourage that helpful spirit. Today she helped pull laundry out of the dryer without me asking. At one point I was going back for another armful & she wanted to beat me to the dryer so she could get more first.
Naptime isn't a huge ordeal like it used to be. There are still days where she cries when I tell her it's naptime. But she's not getting out of bed constantly & needing discipline. She's going right to sleep. Today she didn't even get upset about having to take a nap. She went right into her bed without a tear!
The independent play has also gotten better & that's been especially helpful for me. I love playing with her but I can't play with her every moment that I'm not taking care of Jillian. I still have a house to clean, laundry to fold, & meals to make. So if she can quietly play with her dollhouse or her farm & animal while I take care of some things then I can get those things done quickly & then get to play with her.
I'm getting into a good routine & adjusting as well, but that's for another post.